Just be nice...

Turning agile is hard. Building a new product from scratch is difficult. Forming a team is a big challenge. Do it all in the same time is suicide... Or? Our team is doing all this at the same time. We are too few, we are too hard-headed and we've taken on several on their own merits, very diffucult tasks at one time. The interesting thing is that it is much like long distance running. It's not a question of IF it hurts, it is WHERE it hurts and how well you can handle that kind of pain.

Somehow you believe that you just have to be relieved from THAT pain and everything will be well. But then something else becomes the thing that hurts the most. In our team we have reached the team building phase three, conflict. We have been there too long and have done very little to move on.

Well, we have tried lots of things but not the most important: just be nice and acknowledge the other person's needs. Well, don't know about you but I tend to get cranky when I express a need and that is ignored. So, then I don't acknowledge that person's needs and he becomes cranky as well. Intelligent - not. Proactive - not. Just plain stupid. So, what can you do? The only person's behaviour you can affect is your own. (Well you might say you can affect your children, but I don't know. You can perhaps guide them, but that is not the point. You decide how you behave, whether or not you're grownup or child. That is my basic standing point anyway.) So I'll just try being nice for once.